Can I Say Goodbye to My Terrible Past?
Luke 11:11 “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? 12 Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”
But, what if you’re the child that really did receive the snake or scorpion? Between a parent’s poor choices and possible struggles with illness or mental health, he or she can accidentally or voluntarily cause their children a lot of pain. Whether you’re the victim or the inflictor of abuse, God offers you healing and hope. We all desperately need God to have any hope of living a good life.
Why me? Is God mad at me? Does He just not love me as much as others? No, it’s just the result of living in a sinful, messed up world. I encourage you to talk to someone you trust. No matter how horrible and difficult your past may have been… or maybe it’s even your present,
you’re not alone.
God is the God of second chances, and third, and fourth… He loves you. Period. He wants to come alongside you to get you to a better place. You can find the answers to many of your questions, though some will probably not be clear until heaven. If you have to face up to the consequences of your actions or poor choices, at least it’s a step in the right direction.
Save yourself some wasted years and confront those hurts today. You may as well be burying a living dinosaur to hide those wounds. It never works. You’ll spend all your time covering the parts that reappear and making excuses to hide behind. Worse yet, you may become the very person that you despise. “Studies show that some 30 percent of abused children become abusive parents” (www.frcmo.org/resources/resources-for-professionals/causesofabuse/). It doesn’t have to happen! God can break all chains and bring freedom to you.
It’s never too late. He’s the God of second chances and third and fourth and so on. Whatever you’re struggling with, it’s not too much for Him. Talk to someone you trust – a pastor, or a good Christian counselor and find out you really do still have a life to live. And maybe you can like it despite all you’ve been through. God is standing with His hand out – grab a hold and journey together with Him. The first step is the hardest one, but it’s like stepping on an escalator. Take that first step and find out what you’ve been missing.